For those of you who haven’t experienced this, congrats. For those who are familiar with this, I am one of those who hates my birthday.
Most people who hate their birthday have had bad experiences when they were young (I’m waving my hand).
It’s very difficult to feel joyous on your birth date when it dredges up bad memories.
The dilemma of wanting to celebrate someone’s birthday when you know they would just as soon forget the whole thing is… You’re ‘damned if you do, damned if don’t’. If you do nothing ‘they’ may be upset. If you do something overtly celebratory, ‘they’ for sure are going to be upset.
I am talking about this tonight because tomorrow is my birthday. Yes, I hate my birthday. As someone who hates my birthday let me give you a few gift giving tips.
What not do to:
* Don’t make a big production out of the birthday, even if you feel it may hurt their feelings if you don’t.
* Don’t do a dinner in a restaurant and have the staff bring a cake with candles.
What you can do:
* Wish ‘them’ a Happy Birthday, gently, and mean it.
* Give them a day of calm. No matter what is going on just don’t talk about it, let them feel good about the day.
If you want to try and do something that may eliminate old birthday memories I have a suggestion.
How about a life experience – like here
You’ll be giving them a positive birthday memory, a new life experience memory, that may even break the birthday bummer cycle for them!